Darren Rowse of Problogger fame recently wrote about mistakes he’s made as a professional blogger. His article gives great tips about avoiding pitfalls by using his own mistakes as examples. Nothing wrong with a little self-deprecation, I always say. One mistake Darren notes; getting into public fights with other bloggers or people who comment negatively about your posting(s). This struck a nerve. I’ve been fortunate in that, most of the comments I receive are very positive. I have great followers and most have blogs of their own. I also insist that my closest friends read my blog religiously and they must never disagree with anything I write about (just kidding). However, periodically someone will make a comment of the negative type. As Darren admits this can be annoying; particularly if you’re only sharing information or opinion about a topic you love or enjoy. Darren states we should avoid commenting on negative nay-sayers. Because Darren is on my list of writers I highly respect and whose advise I follow religiously, was reluctant to disagree. However, while trying to finish a guest-posting for another blog, my mind kept drifting back to Darren. I decided I must make my feelings known even if Darren never reads them.
In my opinion, the best way to deal with negative comments is to turn them into positive postings. Usually I accomplish this by taking the writer‘s negative comment and reposting it as a question posed from the internet. This deflates the negativity and allows me the opportunity to address the issue without being offensive or aggressive. For instance: in response to a posting about what today’s social-media addicted society can learn from Jane Austen‘s Persuasion and Pride and prejudice, a young woman wrote that I was suggesting that she was socially dysfunctional and that bloggers shouldn’t express themselves freely. I’d actually never heard of the young lady so I initially didn’t respond to the comment but I did post it out of fairness to her. A few days later she wrote again, claiming that I must have seen that she was right and was afraid to respond, claiming that even my lack of response was disrespectful. I thought about not responding again and then thought better of it. In an attempt not to offend, I took her comments and posed them as questions on my blog. In the posting, I gave my opinion regarding the question and invited other readers to post comments as well. Not really realizing what a hot topic I was posing, I sent the post into the blogosphere. What I received back were positive comments and opinions of those who like me, wanted to share and enjoy other opinions. I received no negative comment and my traffic for the post was pretty good. I feel that I should have done this after receivng the inital negative comment. The mistake I made was in not commenting. It further alienated the reader and I really felt bad that she felt disrespected. I never heard from that young lady again, even after posting about her comments. I can only assume I’ve lost a reader. However, I did learn from the experience and from that day forward I always address comments in a positive manner. Sorry to disagree, oh great one. Perhaps you might take my advice this time.
If you’d like to read Darren’s post, ree’s the link: http://tinyurl.com/329lsgr
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